Cosmo, Elle, Marie Claire, Allure...they all have those articles telling you how to be better in bed, do this, do that, blah blah blah. I figure I might as well make up my own rules, huh?
Here's how I do it. First, have sex. Try stuff. Enjoy having sex. Make sure your partner enjoys it. If you are alone, enjoy having it with yourself. A fucking lot.
But aside from that...Deal with your shortcomings, be it weight, height, hair color, ankle width. Either change them if you hate them so much, or accept them as a charming and quirky part of who you are. Love your damn self.
Find your archetype. Like for instance, I am not the enigmatic and mysterious type. Nada, nicht, nyet, no. This is not me. Now, I love the mysterious boys. I married one, but I can't pull it off, myself. Likewise, I don't tend to attract people when I am brooding and poetically sad, though I do enjoy a good depressive brood ever so much. I am not Angelina Jolie or Greta Garbo, I'm more........Sara Jessica Parker or Betty Grable.
So, if people tell you that you are "cute" work that cute, if you are funny, make em' laugh, if you are the girl next door, make cookies. If you are a cool and icy bitch, freeze those fuckers while they beg.
Its about finding that authentic self and maximizing it, in my opinion.
Smell good. I'm a stickler for smell. Just....(and this goes for men, too) smell good.
Find a "beauty maintenance" routine that won't make you feel bitchy and resentful for actually doing it. If you love spending hours in the salon each week being plucked, waxed, dyed and painted, go for it. If you hate it, don't.
Like, while I love the physical experience of the salon, I can't deal with all the scheduling and the fucking cost, man. $80 for highlights? Jeez. I'd rather spend the money on a riding crop or a fine wine.
Love life, just eat it up if at all possible (unless you are rockin' the poetically sad and brooding thing, then you can hate it). Life lovers are just fun to be around. Period.
Have sex. Great sex. Come early and come often.
And make up your own rules....how do YOU get to be a sex goddess?
6 comments:
*applauds* Fucking brava, Goose.
You rock, darling.
Nothing more sexy to me than a woman that feels comfortable with herself, and goes for it, simply because she really enjoys it, because she likes what she does ! Bravo girl, so right !!
Don't know how I have achieved sex goddess status, Goose, it just seems to come natural. Ha.
What I really think is that every woman should read this and take it to heart.
I rock the confidence that age has graciously bestowed upon me in exchange for the hard body of my youth. And my smile. I wouldn't trade that for anything.
Mind if I link to this piece on my blog? I think it's akin to a public service announcement.
Kisses.
Tess
Well said! I've learned I don't need to "be" anybody but me and I always come (and cum) first.
I don't think of anyone as being above me and I appreciate and love myself and the way I look.
Women everywhere need to learn these!
Very well said and something I happened across just when I needed to be reminded. Thank you!
bella
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